Saturday, March 30, 2013

8 months later...

(Actually it's been 9 months, but I figured including that in the title would lead people to make completely unrelated and false assumptions.)

I have been a terrible, terrible blogger.  I abruptly stopped posting, failed to provide closure, and even unintentionally let my guiriguia.com domain expire.  I need a proper patada.

But as I sit down to write possibly the last Guiri Guía blog post, I realize why I've been such an unreliable blogger since my flight from Spain last July.  There are several indications to help me lead to my conclusion: this sick feeling in my stomach as if I've eaten too many migas, this urge to grab the nearest box of pañuelos to sob into, and the need to pour this glass of Campo Viejo (that I thankfully found at Kroger).  The reason that I've been putting off this final post is actually quite simple.  Ending this blog is the official end to an era I haven't been ready to let go of.

There were so many posts I wanted to publish.  The all-Spanish post.  The future plans post.  The posts-I'll-never-write post.  And the final farewell to Murcia post.  But my time was cut short, and I had to unexpectedly leave Spain.

Instead of finishing the blog as soon as I returned to West Virginia, I avoided it, blaming it on anything and everything.  Grieving my grandfather's death (that one was completely acceptable).  Reverse culture shock.   Jet lag.  Missing my friends and fiancé.  Having to start Craig's visa application.  Adjusting to living back at home.  Wedding planning.  Starting my first teaching job.  Learning how to survive my first teaching job.  And then the list just grew and grew.

But here I finally am.  We'll just say I'm finishing this blog with the Spanish mentality.  It gets done when it gets done.  Muy tranquilo.

So to fill in the gaps between the last post and the conclusion of this one...

I've moved back home where I am a Spanish teacher at a local middle school.  (So yes.  An English teacher in Spain and a Spanish teacher in America.)  I'm actually also certified to teach English Language Arts, but I've found that I much rather prefer teaching foreign language.  My students are great and make me proud when they speak quickly trilling their r's.  Better yet when a few speak with the Spanish theta (aka lisp).

Craig moved back to Jersey and is still waiting for his US visa.  We haven't seen each other since the day I left Madrid in July, but any day now we expect a letter from the US Embassy informing us of our interview date.  Within the next 3-5 weeks I should be flying out to meet him London.  After our interview, he should receive his visa the same day, but he won't arrive to the US until a week before our wedding, which is July 21st.

I've been taking evening Spanish classes at the local university.  Last semester I took The Culture of Spain class, and every Tuesday I woud escape from reality and teleport to Spain for a few hours.  We'd watch Almodóvar and even chew on some chorizo in class.  And to top it off our central text was a novel by my favorite Spanish writer, Carlos Ruiz Zafón.

In my spare time I've been cramming in any wedding planning, lesson planning, and grading.  And that's pretty much it.

But once in a while, when I get the chance, to help me get through work and missing Craig, I reflect on the past two years and how they've affected my present and future: my friendships, my career, and my future marriage.  I think back to the very start of my viaje to Spain, waiting impatiently for my visa.  I think back to the days that I had trouble adjusting to the Spanish lifestyle and language.  I think back to the month that I had to make the decision to leave after first year and accept a job in the US or to stay in Spain a second year to see where my relationship with Craig would take me.  And I think back to the moments where I finally felt that I was fitting into my surroundings.

It was all a short story, with its beginning and rising action.  The plot even peaked with a proposal (I never thought I would live out a screenplay of a chick flick).  And though I seem to be composing its ending, it's a story that will continue to weave itself throughout the rest of my life.

And because I love creating videos, I couldn't finish this blog without a final video, a montage of my favorite moments with my favorite people to my favorite song related to Spain.




King of Spain from Ashley on Vimeo.


Thank to all of you who read over the past two years.  Guiri Guía wouldn't have been a blog without your individual hits that added up in the bottom corner of this screen.  Each and every one kept me writing.

Gracias a todos y hasta luego.

My final piece of advice to a guiri: 
Keep that inner-guiri with you wherever you go, even when you're no longer a foreigner.  Even when you go back home.

Monday, July 30, 2012

Adios and Farewells

My time in Spain is over, unfortunately, but my blog is not.

Earlier this month there was a sudden change of plans for my last couple of weeks in Murcia.  With only about 11 days left in Spain, I lost a dear person in my life, my grandfather.  Although he had insisted for two years that I didn't fly back if anything were to happen to him, I couldn't miss saying goodbye to such a great man.

So in early July I quickly packed my maletas, cleared out my piso, said farewell to my amigos, and kissed my prometido in the Madrid airport all within three days.  It was a difficult leaving so suddenly, but I it was all worth it to pay my respects to one of the most important people in my life.



In the next couple of weeks I'm going to finish up this blog as I had planned to do, just a little later and on the different side of the Atlantic that I had anticipated.  

Thursday, July 5, 2012

Internet friend dating

Before moving to Spain, I had never said these words in this sequential order: "We met through the Internet."  Now that I have a blog and live abroad, I say it all the time.  And I think that's one of my favorite things about writing a blog--connecting with people with similar interests.

There's almost an immediate bond when you meet another expat in Spain because your both walking around in the same zapatos.  First you tomar a coffee or beer, compare "how-did-you-end-up-here" stories, laugh at the "when-I-first-arrived-here-I-didn't understand-this" stories, and then the rest is history.

Here are some people I met through my blog or blogging-related sites over the past year:


Margot
From: France


Margot was the first person I met through the blogging world.  After I submitted my blog to www.expat-blog.com last year, we found each other through the site's social network.  We met up for a few tapas one evening, and then started hanging out regularly.  She was in Murcia doing an internship for a French hotel chain.  We spent quite a few evenings hanging out on the third floor of the Murcia Novotel watching TV series and raiding the employees' lounge snack bar.  Since then Margot has returned to France, but I'm hoping to one day visit her in Lyon.


Richelle
From: USA

Richelle is a fellow blogger (check out Un día voy a ser otra distinta) who I met through Guiri Guia last year.  After receiving her school placement to be a language assistant in Murcia, she left a comment on one of my posts with her email address.  I responded and we kept an email conversation going for a few months.  It took us about five months after she arrived to Murcia, but we finally met back in March.  We spent the day roaming the city looking at art and eating ice cream.  Last month we met for one merienda before she headed back to the States.


Leah
From: USA

We didn't actually meet through my blog, but rather through coincidence, although the blog does come into play here.  In the winter I attended a yoga class in a small, private studio.  I don't know how it happened, but this place attracted a lot of guiris.  One day I was talking to another friend in the class and a girl turned around and asked, "I know this is going to sound really weird, but do you have a blog?"  It turns out that Leah read my blog last year before moving to Murcia, and we ended up meeting in a tiny little yoga studio.  The world is certainly a handkerchief.



Last, but certainly not least..

Eve
From: France


also met Even through Expat Blog last spring.  We hung out a few times, and then Eve quickly fit right into our "guiri" group.  Since the evening we met, Eve and I hang out at our monthly (sometimes weekly) guiri get-togethers.  She has lived in Spain for seven years and now lives with her husband on the beautiful coast (remember?).  Eve and I have become close friends, and she's one friend I have no doubt that we'll keep int touch through the years.  We're even planning a possible get together in New York this fall.  



These are all guiris that I'll certainly miss once I leave.  But I guess the good thing about meeting friends through the Internet is that you can keep them through the Internet.  Encantada de conoceros, chicas.


My advice to a guiri:  Join an expat website (like www.expat-blog.com).  It may seem strange at first trying to meet people online, but with most guiris you immediately have common ground to start from.